How Women Dress for Sex!
In my early 50s I had a young 30 something English woman living with me for several months while I was under Island arrest in a small Middle Eastern country. We had a great time together but watching her in action gave me a lot of very useful insights into the sexual behaviour of the opposite sex. I always knew when she was going to have sex with her dates because of the ritual she went through before going out for the evening. If the afternoon included a bikini wax, then sex was a certainty. Also, how she dressed was another big give away as to what was planned.
Now this raises an interesting question in the game of sexual hide-and-seek that men and women play. I’m convinced that all successful sexual relations are initiated by women. Women, after all, control sex. Whether sex takes place or not will be up to the woman. Men strut about, pose, show off, build buildings, companies, planes, etc, fight wars, write poetry and songs, but all of this is done mainly to attract women. These activities conducted by men are attention-getting devices, which are coupled with the fact that men carry certain childlike traits into adult hood. This is known in biology as neoteny. It means we like to play long after we should have stopped playing.
But women make the choice for any consensual sexual coupling to occur and what men do assists in that choice but does not dictate it. Albeit, some women do display a disconnect between what they want and what they think they did. I remember very clearly standing next to a woman who was seated on a bed in front of me. She made a very slight, barely discernible motion with her hand. It was enough to signal to me to sit and take things to the next level. We ended up having sex. When I mentioned to her afterwards that it was this motion that initiated matters, she denied having made it and denied initiating the encounter. But she did initiate it and all women do whether subtly or overtly. But a problem that often arises and that leads to conflict is that men can be very bad at reading the signals that women give off and women are often in denial about their own sexual desires and even their own sexual agency.
Now, just because choice lies with women that doesn’t mean that they don’t expect us to do some heavy lifting when it comes to entertaining them before, during and after sex. And guys, we’ve all probably flushed sexual opportunities down the drain as a result of turning out to be boring, tedious, crass, insensitive, stupid or just clueless — as all men will be on occasion.
But the real problem, fellows, is that we don’t know how she dressed and prepared herself for the date. If you knew this, it would take so much of the worry and guesswork out of the situation. The crux of the matter is the underwear. If a woman shows up on a date and has her tits hanging out, that’s not necessarily a sure sign. She may just be vain, or they’re actually on display for someone she hasn’t met yet, and you’re frankly just filling in in the meantime. That’s the problem. You don’t know if she’s wearing white-cotton underwear from Marks & Spencer’s, in which case you don’t have a hope in hell of getting laid, or if she’s wearing a red lacy thong, in which case she put it on for one purpose and one purpose only — and that’s to take it off for you.
Watching Sarah dress, I always knew.
Now here’s another piece of advice for male readers. Never underestimate the power of a new pair of great shoes to get you great sex. Although I subscribe to the philosophy of the great Roman epigrammatist, Martial, who said that a woman in bed can never be naked enough, I would make an exception for the shoes. Guys, you should let her keep her new shoes on when you make love to her. This will also give her something sexually arousing to look at while her legs are up in the air, and you have your way with her. This way, even if she doesn’t cum she will still derive a sense of satisfaction during the encounter from admiring her new shoes while she plans her next move, which is, of course, finding someone who does make her cum!
