I see that I commented on this before but seem to have missed a few key elements.

The list of acts that you describe that you engaged in before losing your virginity make you what we in the US call "a technical virgin". So, I agree that technically you were still a virgin at that point but were very knowledgeable about sex. So, it is not unfair to say that they are different things.

I have only had sex with one 'virgin' in my life which I will write about for Mmm Mondays in due course. She had none of the experiences that you had had and had only kissed one boy. She was pretty naive and when I told her that I was going to make love to her she was surprised when I wanted to do it again as she didn't know that could be done. Though, the first few times that I had sex, it didn't occur to me that I could do it more than once in any single encounter.

Finally, as to the orgasm gap. I have my own view on that. If a woman doesn't climax that's 100% on me. However, the last time I had three girlfriends in bed together one of them had three orgasms, the second one had six and the third had anywhere between twelve and fifteen or so. I had one. That to me is the real orgasm gap!