Sarah, I have provided this experience for three of my girlfriends, several times for my current one. They all loved it! It's a joy to witness the high degree of arousal that this experience can give a woman. I do recommend that one of the best ways to do this is to have the other man be an escort. That ensures maximum co-operation between the two men without any elements of their friendship getting in the way. And trust me you or any woman will have the best experience if the men are working together to make her the center of attention. It sounds like your bartenders didn't quit have that spirit. Of course you could always hire two escorts to ensure that you get exactly what you want. If you're in the US, which I suspect, try cowboys4angels!