To answer a few of your questions: Yes, a pussy is hot and that's one of the best sensations in the world. Condoms definitely decrease sensation. The tip (corona) is more sensitive, but we need action on the shaft to cum. As we get older oral sex gives us better orgasms. Stopping giving blowjobs is downright cruel!
After several years my wife stopped blowing me and to compound insult to injury asserted that she had in fact never done it.
We've sorted that out, but it was the weirdest gaslighting I've ever been through!
Keep an eye out next week for my definitive post on the seven different types of fellatrices!